Being a third wheel is a choice and a lifestyle. It is not for the faint of heart.
I remember telling my friends a while back that you need to remember certain things to be able to cope with this lifestyle:
1.) You must have a lot of patience. A mistress will always be the fallback person once things do not go smoothly with the first family. He will go to you to vent his anger and other negative emotions. He will also go to you to get things his wife doesn't give him.
2.) You must lower your expectations. If you set the bar at prince charming knight in shining armor kinda guy, this is not the life for you. Time will always be limited and it will always be on the down low.
3.) You must accept that the probability of you living your dream life is much lower than it used to be.
4.) You must learn to not listen to what others may say about you. They will always demonize you and see you as the seductress who lured an unsuspecting man to break his marriage vows, even though it is a relationship with CONSENT from both parties.
5.) You must do all of these without complaint and without the benefits of the marital bed. After all, what's worse than not being able to marry the one you love?
6.) But even after all that, you must have FAITH. You have to TRUST him to be able to fight for you and your relationship. That is love after all, BLIND FAITH. If both of you are fighting to make things work, then why not?
2.) You must lower your expectations. If you set the bar at prince charming knight in shining armor kinda guy, this is not the life for you. Time will always be limited and it will always be on the down low.
3.) You must accept that the probability of you living your dream life is much lower than it used to be.
4.) You must learn to not listen to what others may say about you. They will always demonize you and see you as the seductress who lured an unsuspecting man to break his marriage vows, even though it is a relationship with CONSENT from both parties.
5.) You must do all of these without complaint and without the benefits of the marital bed. After all, what's worse than not being able to marry the one you love?
6.) But even after all that, you must have FAITH. You have to TRUST him to be able to fight for you and your relationship. That is love after all, BLIND FAITH. If both of you are fighting to make things work, then why not?
This is my choice. This is my burden and my gift. I am proud to say that I am selfless enough to love a man who legally belongs to another. But I have no regrets. I fell in love without expecting much and I remain like that through thick and thin because HE IS THE ONE FOR ME.
It's like they say, sometimes you meet the right person at the wrong time, but the point is YOU MET. Make the most out of it and see where it goes.
